In this day and age when there is a gadget for everything, I’ve begun to wonder, are these things a convenience or a crutch? Webster’s defines convenience as “suited to personal comfort or to easy performance” and “affording accommodation or advantage”. It defines crutch as a prop or stay, basically something that holds you up when you can’t stand on your own.
For the last few weeks I have been falling deeper into the rabbit hole of Proverbs 31 with some dear sisters of mine and one of the things that keeps jumping out at me is how much this woman uses her hands to bless her family…her actual hands. They touch the family’s food during selection and preparation. They touch the raw material that she spins into thread to weave the fabric to sew their clothes. They touch EVERYTHING! Not too long ago I talked about the power of touch and just how much energy we transfer through our touch. Now here this woman is infusing her energy, her love, her heart, her nurturing thoughts into everything she gives to her family.
Now I’m not saying throw all your appliances away, because I surely have no plans to do so. But I do think that when we depend so heavily on them, we lose some major opportunities to infuse our family, our community, with the love we have stored up inside. We miss those key experiences of pouring ourselves into a sacrifice for love. The Proverbs 31 woman put all her energy into the task at hand and kept her focus on her family while she did it. She didn’t push a button and then go play online until the machine finished working.
She was able to accomplish all of these things without a single one of the conveniences we have today. Yet, even with all we have, we seem to never have time for the important things in life like fellowship with the Father and with our family. So the question remains…these devices, these gadgets, that we fill our home with, fill our lives with, are they helping us be more efficient or propping up our duties so that we can do the things of the world instead? I’m going to be honest with you. When I first ran through this exploration into self, I came to the conclusion that many of my gadgets were crutches, not conveniences.
There are some things you can look at to see if you may have fallen into crutch territory too:
1. Can you do the job without it?
2. What do you do with the time it saves you?
3. Do you still pour your love and energy into the task or has it become just as mechanical as the device you’re using?
4. Do you ever get the urge to do the job without the device?
5. Do you work with the device or does it work for you?
Take some time to look at the ways your nurturing and domestic service, those ways in which you feed your family your love and support, have, in effect, been put on autopilot. I have truly come to believe that many of us have structured our lives backwards, myself included. We put home on autopilot so we have more time to participate in the world, when it is the world that needs to be put on autopilot so we have more time to participate more at home. This is the transition I’m taking head on, this is the goal that has sparked passion in my soul!
So take some time every once and awhile to do things from scratch, the old fashioned way. If you don’t know how, take the time to learn. It will be such a blessing to your family! Be intentional about your thoughts and feelings while you are working in your home. Find creative ways to touch more of what you give to your beloved ones. Spread holiness and prayer over everything you give them and cover them with your love. Slowdown from the everyday hustle and bustle of life and let your focus rest contently in your God-given service. Within these acts infused with love can be found the most humbling and edifying peace and joy that can and will carry you through even the toughest of days. I encourage you beloved, give it a try. There are blessings abundant stored within!
I pray you an adventurous spirit and an open heart precious ones! Shalom!~
Surrendered to Him~