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2014_06_02 L2L_Boast

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
{1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV, emphasis added}

I used to think this to be a strange thing for love NOT to do. I mean who doesn’t like boasting on their loved ones accomplishments? This is even more true when those loved ones are our very own children! It took me getting into the Word and studying the definitions for passages like this to truly come alive for me.

What does boasting mean here?

[blockquote border_color=”#be92cf”] According to Thayer’s, the Greek word rendered as boast here means “to boast one’s self; a self display, employing rhetorical embellishments in extolling one’s self excessively”[/blockquote] [blockquote border_color=”#be92cf”] Webster’s defines boast as “a statement in which you express too much pride in yourself or in something you have, have done, or are connected to in some way.”[/blockquote]

When those two are combined, you can see that this boasting is not about bragging on those you love, it is about boasting on yourself. I like how in the ESV it is rolled up together with envy, because I think the two often go hand in hand. When we are boasting about what we do, typically it is in direct relation to what another does or doesn’t do. One has to wonder if that’s not because we envy what they do or don’t do.

Boasting is a heart issue

More often than not, it is when we don’t feel appreciated that we feel the need to “remind” others of all we do. We find ourselves with an empty emotional tank and seek out accolades to fill that tank. Unfortunately, we far too often seek them from other people instead of form the Creator. Mathew 6:1 warns of against doing just that saying, “Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.” {ESV}

The deeds that count most are those that are done out of desire and from the heart, not out of obligation or for accolades. Of course we all need encouragement and support, but we must be mindful of how and from where we seek those things. Who we seek them from says a lot about whose opinion we value most in our hearts. That number one spot was created for Yeshua alone! When we learn to do our tasks for Him, the One who Covers us, He never forgets to send us an encouraging Word or remind us how precious we are to Him.

What boasting does to our children

When our children are constantly confronted with our to-do list, they develop the sense that the elements of their day are less important. Their personal sense of worth and importance in the home can be drastically affected too. Their existence becomes revolved around accommodating what we have to get done or what we hold to be a good use of time. This is a very tough way for a budding believer to discover who they are in Mashiach {Christ}! This may sound extreme to you, but keep in mind that every extreme has a foundation in something simple. The only difference between the two is scale and intensity, both of which can grow at any time and in many ways.

Ways to combat boasting

While this can certainly be worked on separately, it may also be worked on coupled with envy as the two tend to be different sides of the same coin. Either way there are some basic elements to consider:

1.  What drives your need for having your action validated by another? Take a look at how, or if, having someone else know what you do fulfills your needs. How would that look you if leaned only on Yeshua to meet those same needs?

2. What makes it so important for your child to be aware of these actions? There are times that, though it looks like boasting, it is more of a way of displaying the consequences of our choices in life to inspire our child to take a better route. If this is the case, you may want explore other options for accomplishing this goal, possibly even sitting down with your child and explaining those very facts.

3. Is your sense of self-worth tied up in your accomplishments? This is a hard question to ask, but a worthwhile one. In looking at what it is we boast about, often we can discern what we use to measure our own value. Truthfully though, our value is found in Yeshua alone.

Learning to look to Yeshua for our value, for encouragement, and for reassurance is the key to success in this, and truthfully the key to success in Faith period.  Standing on a verse through this process can help a great deal with making turning to Him first a way of life. My favorite ones for this are Hebrews 12:1-2 {ESV}

[blockquote border_color=”#be92cf”]Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.[/blockquote]

I pray you are infused with courage and strength to tackle this first in your home and then throughout life beloved! Shalom!~

Surrendered to Him~





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What are some of the situations that boasting is a temptation for you?

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