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2014_06_09 L2L_Arrogant

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
{1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV, emphasis added}

“Arrogant? Me? Surely, this isn’t the case!” This was my first response to this portion of this challenge. Ironically, that very response proved there was an issue with arrogance in my heart. I was instantly reminded of the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector {Luke 18:9-14} and humbled. See, arrogance is one of those things that creeps into your heart in small ways then expands exponentially, and unfortunately this means it often goes undetected and unchecked.

What is arrogance?

[blockquote border_color=”#be92cf”]According to Thayer’s, the Greek word rendered as arrogant here means “to inflate, blow up, to cause to swell up; to be puffed up, to bear one’s self loftily, be proud.”[/blockquote] [blockquote border_color=”#be92cf”]Webster’s defines arrogant as “exaggerating or disposed to exaggerate one’s own worth or importance often by an overbearing manner; showing an offensive attitude of superiority.”[/blockquote]

Being proud with an exaggerated sense of self-worth seem to sum up the concept of arrogance quite nicely. Those are some serious charges to bring against one’s self! Yet it is when we find ourselves unable to consider that we may fall somewhere in those guidelines or objectively evaluate ourselves along those lines that we are in the most danger of those charges actually being true. Humility says that in no way am I above any sin, so search me Lord, show me where the sin lies, and renew my mind to repentance.

How does arrogance manifest in the home?

While there are countless ways for arrogance to show itself with the home, the most common for parents is thinking that they are in charge. Statements such as “this is my house” and/or “you will follow my rules” reveal the seeds of arrogance sprouting fruit. We are not the heads of our households! Yeshua is!!! We own nothing! It is all a gift from above left in our care. It belongs to Him and He retains the right to with it as He pleases. The rules we teach in our homes are to bring our children closer to following the will of God, not the will of mom.

It is the need to control, or more so the belief that we even can control, that shows arrogance the most. Our children are not here to please us, or fulfill our plan for their lives. They are here for the same reason we are, to serve Him. We are charged with teaching them diligently how to serve Him and showing them consistent examples of that service. His will must be sought out at every turn to ensure that we are parenting according to His purpose and not ours.

How to remove arrogance from the heart

Because of vast number of ways that arrogance can exists in the heart and the home, it is difficult to lay out a general plan of attack. There are a few things that you can do to build your own personalized plan of attack though.

1. Look carefully over those definitions and be on the lookout for areas of your life where you slip into those roles, even if only slightly.

2. Keep a journal or log of the words and phrases you use in those areas, as the words we use reveal a great deal about the issues of our hearts.

3. Take time to pray over each one you find, asking God to show exactly where the sin lies and to teach you how to turn form it.

4. Find and memorize verses to speak instead of your own words in parenting areas where you find yourself having the most trouble. Be careful, however, no to twist the Word for your own benefit.

5. Make an accountability plan to track your progress. You could use something like a swear jar or make a mark each time you display arrogance, only rewarding yourself if you stay under a certain amount while consistently lowering that threshold as you progress.

Ruach {Spirit} is your friend in all of this. Open yourself to Him, prepared to be shown the truth about the issues of your heart, and let Him guide you in the Way that is right for you. It all starts with admitting that there is an issue and that it needs to be corrected.

I pray truth and wisdom rain down upon you in abundance beloved. Shalom~

Surrendered to Him~





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What do you do to guard yourself against arrogance?

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