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2013_11_10 Boundaries

~The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song. The Lord is the strength of his people, a fortress of salvation for his anointed one.~

Psalm 28:7-8 (NIV84)

The talk in my last post about focus brought up one of the key things that bring many Christians, including myself, serious trouble…boundaries. Somewhere in the midst of striving to be like Jesus in all manners of “love” and “charity” and “selflessness” we lose sight of the fact we are required to set boundaries. Yep, that’s right…I said REQUIRED! You have a responsibility as a child of God to tell some people “no”! I know, I know…the horror!

The Word is very clear on this matter though. Yet while many of us know 2 Corinthians 6:14 {Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?} and the many other verses along those lines, we still don’t do it. See for many of us acknowledging that boundaries need to be set is not the issue. The issue is understanding the depths of why they are necessary and why we are entitled to them.

Either we feel it’s not that serious or we feel we don’t have the right to require and enforce it. I’m going to deal with the seriousness of it first because a quick look around provides a sobering view of why it is serious. Over the years we have become more complacent about what we allow in our lives and inch by inch we have, by passive lack of resistance, created this mess we are in now. The average person in their 30s now has many things they can say, “I remember back when you couldn’t do that out in public like that!” Not too terribly long ago phrases like that were reserved for people in their 60s and older. It is evidence of how quickly inches can add up when you are strict in enforcing your boundaries.

I am going to take a moment here to get something very clear. We all have the God given gift of free will. We all have the power to choose our path in life and not one single solitary one of us has the right to dictate another’s path. We do, however, have not only the right but the responsibility to set clear boundaries about what will allow in our lives. Acknowledging someone’s right to make a choice doesn’t mean you condone that choice and definitely doesn’t mean YOU have to live with it. So this is not about getting others to conform to your choices. It is about refusing to conform to theirs.

That brings me to the second reason we tend to be lax in setting and enforcing boundaries, feeling like we don’t have the right to. The truth is you are most definitely entitled to have boundaries! As I said earlier, you not only have the right but the responsibility. You are set apart as Holy by God {see Leviticus 20:26, Galatians 1:15, and 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 just to name a few} and therefore are called by His Grace to do greater works {John 14:12}. Only by maintaining that atmosphere of Holiness can the Spirit roam free in your life, allowing for your Ordained Greatness to manifest abundantly.

So let each of us, in the manner of our own needs and callings, take serious inventory of our personal spaces, atmospheres, and intimate connections. How many unclean things have we taken into our confidences, into our bosom, and by default into our hearts? Is God speaking change into our life, but there’s so much static we can’t hear Him? Where are we neglecting the law in maintain our personal cities {intimate circles}? Get before the throne with these questions in your heart earnestly seeking answers and He will give you a clear view of all you ask. We owe it to the Lord and ourselves to completely embrace is gift of Divinity!

How do you enforce your boundaries? Do you find any difficulty with any particular areas?


Surrendered to Him~






We glorify Your Name above all names and come before the throne of Grace with thanks and praise in our hearts and on our lips. Daddy show us those things that you want removed from our lives and teach us why it is so important that they go so that we can etch that passion in our hearts as a reminder in times of trouble. Be our strength and show us the ways of consistency, commitment, and persistence. Take hold and make us Your own so that You and You only get all the Glory, Honor, and Praise!

In Jesus’ Name we pray,                        


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