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“Please forgive me.” Such a simple phrase, but it carries a huge impact. Yet typically for us parents, especially us single parents, we don’t use it enough where it counts the most…in our own homes. There are truly times where a parent needs to ask forgiveness from their child. We are human, we make mistakes, and mistakes must be acknowledged.

Many have said that asking for your child’s forgive diminishes your role and authority because it gives them control and gives them the upper hand. For many years I bought into that lie and almost wrecked my life and children because of it. Those words are simply not true. Letting our children know that we make mistakes and letting them see how we respond and recover from those mistakes, is one the best teaching tools we have in the home. It builds an added layer of mutual respect that is needed to build and grow a loving environment.

Now I’m not saying you need to beg for your child’s forgiveness or try to buy their forgiveness with lavish gifts. I’m talking about a simple acknowledgement of what you did, how it impacted their lives, and a request for forgiveness. You will both be better off for it in the long run. It keeps you from getting too all-powerful in the home by reminding you of your humility and it gives them a living example of how to handle a situation when they make a mistake.

The other way leaves them frustrated, thinking that those in authority are always right and they are always wrong. It makes them feel like they are in a no win situation with no way out.  Anyone backed into a corner like that is, by instinct, going to go into protective and defensive mode. Those of you who have dealt with a child, or an adult, in this mode know that getting something productive through that barrier is nearly impossible. On the other hand though, sharing your vulnerability makes them feel safe and gives them hope.

The Word says that we are not to embitter or exasperate our children. Instead we are to train them in the instructions of Adonai. {Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4} The best way to do that is to lead by example and show them that they are not in this day-by-day walk with Yeshua alone, that we all need redemption in Him, and that each day is a chance to start anew.

So speak encouragement into your household and watch it multiply abundantly! I pray you peace and direction beloved! Shalom!~

Surrendered to Him~

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