Over the course of the last couple of weeks I’ve been thinking a great deal about the links between deprivation and obsession. It is amazing to me how you never really want something more than when you realize you can’t have it. Just think about anything you’ve ever tried to quit. It seems as though as soon as you make the committed decision, that very thing is EVERYWHERE! Everywhere you look or turn, there it is beckoning you, taunting you. So we begin restricting our exposure to it, removing it from our lives completely.
Now, don’t get me wrong, this is a needed step for some journeys. There are some things in life that are so dangerous to your well-being that you must cut yourself off from them completely, right from the start, to have any real chance at success. Even in those cases, however, allowing the focus to weigh too heavily on removing something for too long has its own set of dangers. It can very easily become a case where we trade one obsession or addiction for another.
In addition, putting so much energy into getting rid of something creates a negative space and that negativity can fill the journey. It creates feelings of lack and loss which completely negate the pursuit of abundance and joy unspeakable. Before long, you are filled with condemnation over all the ways you’ve fallen short thus far and you are having no fun at all! To me, that is one of the biggest tragedies of all…not being able to enjoy the process!
So instead of focusing on what you are giving up, keep your focus on what it is that you are gaining through your journey. Make inspirational cards or notes and keep them everywhere so you are consistently reminded of what the reward of your goals are. Fill your journey with feelings of gain and abundance and let the joy flow in! When you can find joy along the way, your chances of success skyrocket!
As a matter of fact, whenever Spirit gives me guidance that it’s okay, I don’t even remove the undesired thing as a part of my journey. I simply start the positive and commit to making the positive my priority over the undesired. Before too long the positive has overrun the undesired and there’s no room for it anymore. I find that when I am able to do things this way, I don’t suffer temptation at all. The desire is slowly replaced by a more positive desire and that’s the end of it.
I must say again though, there are things that merit immediate removal and attention. Please spend time with the Holy Spirit, and a professional if needed, to determine the correct course for your particular journey. If you have any question thoughts or ideas, please don’t hesitate to ask. You can leave a comment below or, for more privacy, message me here or on Facebook. Be blessed!
Surrendered to Him~
What’s your favorite method for changing habits, thought patterns, behaviors, lifestyles, etc.? Are there any tools that you find particularly useful on these kinds of journeys?
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