Lately I have become very aware of femininity and modesty and how I reflect that with my actions. I have started to look at how I sit, how I speak, and various other aspects of my behavior. Not too long after I began the process of modifying some of the things that I wasn’t too terribly fond of, I noticed I wasn’t making much progress at all. It wasn’t a matter of not being aware or failing to remember to correct the behavior. It was that, after months of working on it, it didn’t feel any more natural or comfortable than it did when I got started.
I would find myself longing to get home so I could “get comfortable” or getting fatigued quicker when I was out than I would at home. It was becoming pure work and it didn’t seem to be getting any easier. Then one day I was sitting on the couch watching a movie and hit me! I looked down and there I was…sitting crossed legged, curled up in the corner of the couch! No wonder I wasn’t getting any more comfortable sitting with my ankles crossed!
In that moment I realized that I hadn’t put on a pair of shoes in two days, that every time I sit down I curl my feet up under me or prop them up on something. The realizations just came flooding in! I’m not saying that doing these things is not feminine or modest, especially when you’re doing them at home. My point is…here I am trying to build a habit and, in the place where I spend most of my time, I am doing the exact opposite.
If you are like me, you’ve heard the sermon that warns against presenting yourself one way in church and then behaving another way everywhere else. I would always apply that to “moral” behavior though. For some reason, until that moment, I never spread the scope of that sermon to my entire life. Think about it, even those who work outside the home start shedding things as soon as they get in the door!
The question becomes, if it is so important that we do something for the people outside our homes then why don’t we do it for the ones in our homes…or better yet why don’t we do it for God all the time? And if we don’t feel the need to do it for those we love and are connected to for life or for God Almighty, then why are we so committed to doing it for other people? I know there will always be comforts reserved just for home, but home deserves to see us at our “best” too.
To help me find some balance in all of this I have made a few guidelines for myself. The main one is that during daylight hours, I am to behave at home, in every way, as I would if I was away from home. If it is important enough to build into a habit, then it should be done at home too. This way I know that the way I am presenting myself is for His Glory and is what is best for me, not just for the benefit of others.
So remember, especially if you spend most of your time at home, what you do at home shows off who you really are. Your regular everyday activities reflect what is important to you. It paints a picture of what you hold dear. Make sure that, as often as humanly possible, the picture it shows is something you want to be seen. Be blessed beloved!~